Minimal Styling for the Modern Momma {Guest Post}

Before I moved to St Louis from California I did what any normal, budding entrepreneur does - I perused social media to find new friends and influencers. Dacy Gillespie was one of the first people I stalked, I mean discovered, and I absolutely loved her business model as a wardrobe stylist. I struggle with the whole capsule wardrobe idea for many reasons but I loved how Dacy found a middle ground between the woman who wants to have a variety of clothes but still keep her closet organized and simple. 

I sat down with Dacy to discuss her process of the Mindful Closet and some of the misconceptions around shopping purposefully. 

Minimal Styling for the Modern Momma

1. What is the mission and vision behind The Mindful Closet?

So many people deal with frustration around getting dressed everyday day. My goal is to help people relieve that stress by letting go of things they don't need and shopping mindfully to create a practical wardrobe.

2. What is the biggest struggle most women face when it comes to styling themselves purposefully?

Most women are overwhelmed by the sheer number of items in their closets. We're all constantly making decisions about raising our kids, life, and work. Having to make too many choices when getting dressed depletes the energy we need for more important decisions. If everyone went through and pulled out only the pieces that currently fit, are appropriate for daily wear (not cocktail dresses!), and they actually like, they'd see that they probably only wear about 20% of their wardrobe. By removing the rest of it (even temporarily!), you can experiment how it feels to have fewer decisions to make.

3. Some women fear the thought of capsule wardrobing, be it because they love a variety of colors and styles or they really can't live with only 37 pieces (say if they are both a mom and working professional). How is mindful shopping different than a capsule wardrobe?

Mindful shopping isn't about getting down to a set number of pieces, it's about buying things thoughtfully and not on impulse. When you buy something because it's cute or on sale without giving thought to how it fits into your lifestyle or wardrobe, you'll end up with a lot of pieces that have no practical use in your life. 

4. What is the biggest struggle into taking the leap into a mindful wardrobe and how can that be overcome?

It's different for everyone. For many, there is a fear of letting something go because they feel they might need it one day. A great example is business attire for moms who currently stay home or work in a more casual environment - when and if you go back to a formal work environment, those clothes either won't fit or might be dated by then. Donate them to Dress for Success and let someone who really needs them use them now. For others, shopping is so overwhelming that they don't know if they'll find the things they need. For still others, they buy things they know deep down they won't use for a variety of reasons. 

5. What benefits do you see in your clients who become more mindful in their wardrobe selection?

By through this process, my clients get to know themselves and their style. They become more confident in what they choose to wear and buy, and they spend much less time getting dressed!

6. What advice would you give a mom who feels like the mindful shopping concept is too difficult? She wears many hats and need clothes for running errands, the PTO meeting, and date night. What is the best way to be both conscious of your shopping decisions while needing a variety of clothing options?

Get good at accessorizing and stop mentally delegating clothes for only one use. A great pair of black jeans can work in all three of those situations with a different top, different shoes (running errands: cool sneakers, PTO meeting: flats, date night: heels) and different jewelry. Moms often don't wear their "cute" clothes for errands or school drop off because they're afraid of being too dressed up. So what if you're the cutest mom in the grocery line?! Yes, your kid might spill something on you but what's the point of owning something if you can't use it?! 

7. What is your number one tip to take the plunge into shopping more simply?

The more ways you can wear something, the more occasions it could be appropriate for, the more likely you are to use it. Keep that in mind when shopping and try to avoid items that are one-use only.

'm a classical musician turned personal stylist and minimalist.

I grew up in Mobile, Alabama but have also lived in Portland, OR, Oberlin, OH, Huston, TX, New York, NY, and Miami, FL.

I currently reside in a Mid-Century Modern home in a sweet little neighborhood in St. Louis, Missouri with my husband (a bassist for the St. Louis Symphony) and our rambunctious two-year old son (who loves construction equipment, despite my best efforts to turn him on to dolls and clothes). 

I am an introvert who loves people but hates talking on the phone, loves to eat but hates meal planning, and loves to shop but hates spending money.